Things J does not know about me


Those things that have happened since we have been apart

1) I am 60 pounds overweight. (hangs head, sees belly, looks elsewhere).
2) I am a cancer survivor.
3) I have lived most of my life on the edge of poverty.
4) I worked for 3 1/2 years as a police dispatcher- and a damned good one too
5) I can swear like a sailor if I want to, but I don't, because I don't want to.
6) I have thought of him often through the years we have been apart
7) I have tried a lot of things, and had some adventures
8) I have paid the price for the things I have tried that didn't work out.
9) I have never been arrested.

I have fantasized since we have been back in contact, about being able to send a message back to my youthful self, and telling myself to hang on to him, and not to let him go, even though we were separated by my move.

But, as T pointed out, if I had done that, there are 5 very fine people who would never have existed. And I am not at all willing to give any of them up. Actually, T was only thinking of my children. There would actually have been 7 very fine people who never had a chance to live. And maybe more when his kids get around to reproducing.

I have been fantasizing a lot since I have been talking to J. I wonder if this is healthy.

Posted: Sat - April 19, 2003 at 10:30 PM